Building Self Esteem

Today I received an email from a friend on a topic that I often discuss with clients: Self Esteem.

Self Esteem is something I have personally worked on a lot.  I grew up having virtually none.  So I have read, studied and trained in all sorts of methods to improve my own self esteem.

The one thing that has worked for me is having a daily consistent practice of doing something for myself.  In the early days it was chanting for 5 to 10 minutes every morning. It doesn’t matter what it is that you do as long as it is for you.

I had a client once that had a real lack of self worth and esteem, she was always doing for others and getting her joy from theirs instead of experiencing it herself.  It took a while for her to understand that this commitment was about her.  She kept insisting that if she did something for a friend or for her children that would be the thing to lift her self esteem.  Each idea she came up with was about pleasing someone else.

It soon became obvious that she didn’t feel that she was allowed to feel good or happy if anyone around her was unhappy.  She felt responsible for the happiness of each person in her life.

I have one-off clients and I have clients that work with me on a regular basis until they have achieved a desired outcome.  She was a one-off client.  There are people that want and can take more and more of me and there are others that have to digest for 6 months to a year on what I’ve given them.

In the end she agreed on having a bath for 10 minutes every day, just locking herself in the bathroom on her own for 10 whole minutes.  Doing that on a consistent basis would build on her relationship with her.  She loved baths, by the way.  The whole point of this is doing something that feels good.

With students and clients I have them do something of spiritual nature to build on their relationship with the Divine.  I have them do a specific meditation (this would include chanting which is an active meditation), or listen or read to a specific author like Joe Vitale or the teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks for a minimum of 15 minutes a day.

Doing something every single day and sticking to it is reaffirming and restating that you really want the life you say you want.  It builds the foundation of not only your self esteem, but also your value and self worth.  Each day that you do that thing you do for you another piece of your dream is fitted into place.

I have all my clients knowing and remembering their clear goal to focus on, so they know WHY they are following through with their commitment each and every day.  It’s not something that we work on for just self esteem.  I have a client building a huge networking business and she wants to do it quickly, so she is using this process.  It keeps her focused and it gives her the energy, courage and strength to do what she needs to do each and every day.

The key is to start with something manageable. For really super-busy clients I have them download a meditation on to an MP3 player and go to bed 5 minutes early and set their alarm clock in the morning 5 minutes earlier so they can listen to a short meditation.  Then we work on extending the time on both ends.

I could write a billion posts on the importance of connecting to the Divine energy.  It gets you aligned with who you are and what you want! It’s where I get my unlimited amount of love, peace and happiness!

I’m off to connect even more to the Divine!

Have a lovely day!!!!!!

With Love and Appreciation,
Angela Bear

www.angelabear.com

Ask Angela - Ho’oponopono

I have a group called Ask Angela on the Powerful Intentions website:

www.powerfulintentions.org/group/askangela

It’s another way for me to do what I love to do which is to support people into alignment. I just had a great question which allowed me to respond with some useful information so I have copied and pasted the question and my answer here for you!

QUESTION:

Hi Angela,

I want to support a friend who is having a healing crisis that could be very serious.

I know that the Ho’oponopono method (I love you, I’m sorry, I forgive you, I thank you) can clear the energy of a situation as we clear ourselves.

Can you please explain how to use Ho’oponopono in this situation?

Do I just focus on what resonates within me in regards to their situation, saying the 4 healing mantras to myself about me? Or, do I say the four sentences as if I am saying them to the other person?

Thanks in advance for answering!

ANSWER:

Dear Kim,

The short answer would be to find the same situation within yourself, or anything similar that allows you to relate to it, and Ho’oponopono on it. (Yes, saying the 4 mantras)

My belief from Buddhism and from training with Native American medicine peoples is that we can only heal others through healing ourselves. This has really been my experience and Ho’oponopono is in perfect alignment with my belief.

I also believe that when anything comes into my awareness it’s an opportunity for me to ‘clean’ on it. So, as I am writing this I am saying the phrases:

I love you
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you

to my memories of being in a healing crisis. I have had lots of healing crisis’ and its something I haven’t Ho’oponopono’d so I thank you for giving me this opportunity to ‘clean’ on it!

As I sit here replying to you I have already remembered several times of being in that place and I am holding the memory and saying the phrases until the energy dissipates and I feel good, instead of ‘being in’ that memor when I think of it.. That’s my personal gauge that it is clear with in me. And when it is clear in me I will know that it is clear in your friend.

I’d like to take this opportunity to tell you another way that I use Ho’oponopono. For things that I seriously want to clean I use the 4 phrases. But I also love to get into a place of Love and Appreciation. The way I do that is to start by saying “I love you” as my mantra and then I find things in my present to feel good about. If for some reason I’m not feeling bad, but I’m also not feeling great, I will look in my past for something that felt good, or something I loved to focus on. I will say “I love you” to the Universe and to that thing or situation. I will keep finding things in my past until I feel really good in my present and then I will love and appreciate the things in my present. I do this for a minimum of 10 minutes each morning.

I’ve found that it gets me into a complete state of BLISS. I am able to fully LOVE and APPRECIATE what is in my present and I spend all the time after the first minute or so being aligned with who I really am. I can feel the energy of Source flooding through me. I experience the dreams I have as if they are real, naturally, with no effort or conscious thought on my part.

I highly recommend getting into a present state of bliss! I’d love for you to try it out and tell me what experience you have had!

With Lots of Love and Appreciation,
Angela Bear
www.angelabear.com

Create Your Dream

A lovely friend of mine asked me a question today that prompted me to share a Creation Exercise that I call the Sundial Exercise. I call it that because it works all of the consciousness to get focus and clarity on a desire so that it can be more readily manifested!

So, here’s the Sundial Exercise:

Take a blank piece of paper and draw a little circle in the middle. Just big enough to write what you want inside the circle. For example: house, car, job, husband, baby, etc.

If you are putting in a person, like a husband, you want to literally write husband, even if who you really want is Steve Hotpants (that works over in accounting to be the one carrying you over the threshold). Do this powerful exercise to create what you want but allowing others free will of choice!

Now you’ve got the middle of your sun that has the thing you want written in it. Imagine you are 5 again drawing a sun. Start at the edge of your circle and draw a straight line out.

On that straight line write a trait that you want your ‘desired thing’ to have. And keep going around the circle drawing a straight line out adding a trait, for example if it is a husband and you are still thinking along the lines of Steve Hotpants then perhaps you might write “is clever in a sexy way’, or ‘has a great sense of mathematical humor’. You can describe Steve Hotpants, you just can’t name him.

Once you’ve gone around and made yourself a wonderful sundial with all the qualities and traits, physical, emotional, spiritual, anything you want put it somewhere you will see it as it is, like on your bedside table or on your fridge.

If you are really wanting whatever it is you wrote in that circle, then you’ll want to put a bit more effort into this project. Each day you will want to start from scratch and delete qualities or traits from the day before, modify them or just add new ones.

The act of re-writing it and putting your attention and focus on it helps to clarify what you want and it helps you to get more into alignment with what your Inner Being/Higher Self/Source wants for you. Often times from our limited perspective we reach for things that are less than what Source wants for us. So add to your Sundial the phrase “This or something better.”

When I do a Sundial I put it on my alter and keep it there, even when I am fine tuning it, the Sundial for that day stays on my alter and I give it a moment or two of my focus and attention.

Even if you don’t re-write and re-work your Sundial, you’ll get what you want. I’ve found, though, that the more you put into it the more clarity and focus you will get and that will lead to a quicker result.

Ho’oponopono

Today I got a message from a Facebook friend saying she read about Ho’oponopono on my website and that she wanted to know more about it and my experience with it. So, I thought it would be a great idea to write a post about it.

Ho’oponopono is a Kahuna healing method that I learned from reading Joe Vitale’s book Attractor Factor. I then read more about Ho’oponopono from reading Joe Vitale’s book Zero Limits. I am in now way an expert on Ho’oponopono and I would highly recommend either book for more info. Zero Limits is specifically about Ho’oponopono.

I do Ho’oponopono two ways.

The first way is to say ‘I love you’ over and over again to the Divine and I remember events, situations that I love to help me to FEEL THE LOVE. It’s my personal way of doing the ‘cleaning’ as it is called AND appreciating so that I am attracting more of the moments that I love into my life.

The second way is to say the following phrases:
I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

When I am saying ‘I love you’ it is to the Universe, the Divine, that greater power that I am a part of.

When I am saying “I’m sorry” it is to the Universe, the Divine and to myself. I am apologizing for forgetting that I am an extension of Source Energy, that I am a beautiful expression of Divinity. I’m apologizing for the times that I acted out of fear and lack mentally and anything else that I felt from forgetting the unconditionally love and immense power that I have access to.

When I am saying “Please forgive me” I am saying that to myself, to every single part of me. I believe and know that I am the only judge, jury and executioner for my own wrong doings. The Divine is not the one with the score card putting ticks for and against me, it’s me that does that. So when I say “Please forgive me” I am asking myself to pardon the things that I did when I forgot who I was and acted out from that place of disconnect.

When I say “Thank you” I am thanking the Divine and the Universe for everything. Yes, literally everything, what I perceive as good AND bad, because everything I am getting is a reflection of my vibration. It’s an indication of what my thoughts are and how much I need to ‘clean’. I am also thanking myself for the awareness of doing the Ho’oponopono process of cleaning in the first place and for that matter every action that I have taken from a place of awareness.

My experience of using Ho’oponopono is phenomenal. I have studied personal development and spirituality with a great passion for 20 years and in that time I have trained with some incredible and amazing teachers that literally could perform miracles. My biggest miracle came from doing Ho’oponopono. Regardless of all my training and all the therapies I had and trained in I still held the image of an abused and unloved little girl. Three months of doing Ho’oponopono every day for at least 10 minutes changed that horrible self image.

Before Ho’oponopono I had the same exact training and I had no confidence in my ability to work with people because of my past and how I viewed myself. My miracle happened one day when I woke up and my past was just gone, my past image of myself was gone, no matter how hard the weak part of me would try to re-create that image of poor little unloved girl nothing came up apart from a clean slate. I got to decide how I was going to view myself RIGHT NOW! That was an incredible miracle!

When doing the Ho’oponopono during those three months I would bring up the bad feelings about myself and how I viewed myself and use the four phrases over and over again. I let myself cry and I went through disbelief and any number of unpleasant emotions, but I just did the ‘cleaning’.

It is said that the ‘cleaning’ of Ho’oponopono cleans the memory and energy all the way back to the beginning of the primordial soup. I would definitely agree with that. After years upon years of training and studying I found that Ho’oponopono is the easiest and most effective tool for clearing limiting beliefs and negative memories quickly.

With Love and Appreciation,

Angela Bear

www.angelabear.com

Special thanks to Jess Tomlinson for her FB message!

FREE Audio & Downloads…

Today I got an email from Karen, asking me about Free readings, I have another old website and somehow she found it. I AM in fact doing an ASK ANGELA, although the page isn’t up yet, somehow people are still finding me and asking me questions, which is great.

Thank you Karen, because replying to you made me realize the value in telling everyone that visits why it’s important to listen to the audios!

I want to make sure that us working together is a good match for both of us. Once you listen to the audios you will know if I am the right person for you. By you simply listening to the audios and contacting me I will know you are a good match for me.

When we do have the session you will have been prepared that way getting the absolutely most from me, which is what I want for you and everyone that comes to me.

Everyone that comes to me for information or healing is asked to listen to these three Free Audios. It sets the energy and the tone for the work and fun that we will have and it allows me to get to the underlying causes much more quickly and easily for BOTH of us!

Please Note: The audio on the interview isn’t perfect and the interviewees at the beginning are not audible. The important thing is to listen to the answers, as all the information you need to know about how I work and if we are a match is in there!

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Affirmations, the Joy of them….

I’ve just returned from a Med Cruise where I took my family mostly to see Abraham (www.abraham-hicks.com). The workshop was ever so leading edge and expanding and I am truly feeling more like the truly aligned being that I am.

On the cruise I re-discovered the Wonders and Joys of Affirmations from watching Louise Hay’s ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ DVD.

I’ve been really experiencing the contrast of coming home to do my own cooking and cleaning after spending 10 days having all of my needs, including my spiritual ones catered too!!!! So, I have really dived into my Affirmations.

Finding a new found appreciation for Affirmations is a follow on from the Miracles Coaching Program (http://www.miraclescoaching.com) that I just finished where I was introduced to Ho’oponopono (www.zerolimits.info) the most phenomenal healing method I have ever experienced and doing affirmations, something that in 20 years of studying personal development I have managed to avoid!

Anway, I LOVE my daily affirmations so much that I wanted to share them with you.

Daily Affirmations

Thank you Divine for the astronomical financial abundance that I have.

Thank you Divine for the Joy beyond my wildest dreams.

Thank you Divine for the most incredible joyous experiences.

Thank you Divine for my self love, value and confidence.

Thank you Divine for my compassion, courage, strength and connection to you.

Thank you Divine for the Miracles I am experiencing every day.

Thank you Divine for my positive thoughts, beliefs, feelings and words.

Thank you Divine for the happiness I experience each and every day.

Thank you Divine for my feeling, knowing and belief that all is well in my world.

Thank you Divine for the knowledge, belief and feeling that I am loving, lovable and I find love everywhere I look.

Thank you Divine for the forgiveness that I’ve had and the forgiveness that I continue to experience.

Thank you Divine for all my relationships being harmonious.

Thank you Divine for all the dreams and visions I have of experiencing what is in my vibrational escrow.

Thank you Divine for all the things in my vibrational escrow that I lined up with yesterday and today.

Thank you Divine for all the wonderful surprises you brought to me and are bringing me today.

Thank you Divine for the knowledge that I deserve the best and providing me with the bes each and every day.

Thank you Divine for bringing into my life all the loving, happy and supportive people.

Thank you Divine for the beauty that I see in the mirror and within myself each and every day.

Thank you Divine for my primary intent being to feel good.

Thank you Divine for my listening to my bodies messages with love.

Thank you Divine for me blessing, loving and prospering myself.

Thank you Divine for my willingness to change.

Thank you Divine for the Source Wisdom that guides me through each day.

Thank you Divine for the fulfillment that I feel in all that I do.

Thank you Divine for the daily proof and knowledge that life supports me.

Thank you Divine for me having spent yet another day in the allowing state of being who I really am.

Thank you Divine for the allowance and acceptance that I have for myself each and every day.

Thank you Divine for the love I felt for myself and my life yesterday and today.

Thank you Divine for all the Gratitude and Appreciation I have expressed for everything in my life each day.

Thank you Divine for all the compassion that I have for all people and things.

Thank you Divine for all the unusual ways money is coming into my life.

Thank you Divine for all my really fun clients that keep finding me.

Thank you Divine for the restoration of my body to it’s natural state of good health.

Thank you Divine for the ecstatic appreciation I feel for the food that I eat.

Thank you Divine for me appreciating every day in every way where I am.

The other thing I did was ‘write my own story’. I got the idea from a book I skimmed through on the cruise. In the book Wildly Wealthy it suggested to write my ideal day, I haven’t quite figured that one out yet. I know it would involve swimming and talking to clients, but I haven’t gotten past those two things. Then when we got home I was watching an Abraham DVD with my partner and Abraham suggested to someone to write his own story! I was just sitting there working out my perfect affirmations so it was easy for the inspiration to flow through me and I wrote my own story of how I’d like it to be! Here it is:

Angela’s Story

I mortgaged my house. I had fun with the money and enjoyed unlimited spending. I learnt loads from investing in personal development. It got a bit hairy. I got into alignment with a HUGE amount of money! Yeah! Julian quit his job. I booked the Abraham Tahiti cruise, bought a brand new car and booked huge home improvements including a hydrotherapy pool and extension. Now I spend every day doing what I love to do most!!! Yeah!!! Joy!!!! AND I have the resources and finances NOW to do anything and everything I want!!!

Personal Note:

I’ve been doing these affirmations every day and telling my story for the last couple of days and it has had a profound effect on my life already. Today I had the opportunity to do some Ho’oponopono for a client and it was the best session I’ve ever done. I really, really ‘cleaned’. Then I got a package (I LOVE presents!!!!) from Darcy. She sent me my own kit to grow a redwood tree! I LOVE Redwood Trees and I LOVE Darcy!

P.S. I will definitely keep you posted on what unusual ways money comes to me. I’m looking forward to the amazing ways that is going to happen!!

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