How to Get MORE Self Esteem

Today I received an email from a friend on a topic that I often discuss with clients; Self Esteem.

Self Esteem is something I have personally worked on a lot. I grew up having virtually none. So I have read, studied and trained in all sorts of methods to improve my own self esteem.

The one thing that has worked for me is having a daily consistent practice of doing something for myself. In the early days it was chanting for 5 to 10 minutes every morning. It doesn’t matter what it is that you do as long as it is for you.

I had a client once that had a real lack of self worth and esteem, she was always doing for others and getting her joy from theirs instead of experiencing it herself. It took a while for her to understand that this commitment was about her. She kept insisting that if she did something for a friend or for her children that would be the thing to lift her self esteem. Each idea she came up with was about pleasing someone else.

It soon became obvious that she didn’t feel that she was allowed to feel good or happy if anyone around her was unhappy. She felt responsible for the happiness of each person in her life.

I have one off clients and I have clients that work with me on a regular basis until they have achieved a desired outcome. She was a one off client. There are people that want and can take more and more of me and there are others that have to digest for 6 months to a year on what I’ve given them.

In the end she agreed on having a bath for 10 minutes every day, just locking herself in the bathroom on her own for 10 whole minutes. Doing that on a consistent basis would build on her relationship with her. She loved baths, by the way. The whole point of this is doing something that feels good.

With students and clients I have them do something of spiritual nature to build on their relationship with the Divine. I have them do a specific meditation (this would include chanting which is an active meditation), or listen or read to a specific author like Joe Vitale or the teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks for a minimum of 15 minutes a day.

Doing something every single day and sticking to it is reaffirming and restating that you really want the life you say you want. It builds the foundation of not only your self esteem but also your value and self worth. Each day that you do that thing you do for you another piece of your dream is fitted into place.

I have all my clients knowing and remembering their clear goal to focus on so they know WHY they are following through with their commitment each and every day. It’s not something that we work on for just self esteem. I have a client building a huge networking business and she wants to do it quickly, so she is using this process. It keeps her focused and it gives her the energy, courage and strength to do what she needs to do each and every day.

The key is to start with something manageable. For really super busy clients I have them download a meditation on to an MP3 player and go to bed 5 minutes early and set their alarm clock in the morning 5 minutes earlier so they can listen to a short meditation. Then we work on extending the time on both ends.

I could write a billion posts on the importance of connecting to the Divine energy. It gets you aligned with who you are and what you want! It’s where I get my unlimited amount of love, peace and happiness!

I’m off to connect even more to the Divine!

Have a lovely day!!!!!!
With Love and Appreciation,
Angela Bear

www.angelabear.com