The Perfect Marriage

Hello Beautiful Co-Creator,

Today I got a message from a Facebook friend about his upcoming marriage and how he’s been told that a marriage is a lot of work. I totally agree, but probably in a completely different way.

For me the work that is needed in marriage is for me to stay as connected to Source Energy as I possibly can. My job is to build my relationship with my Inner Being and Source Energy.

Why is that my job? Because if I’m not at my best and not feeling safe, loved or adored the first person that is going to hear about it is my husband. It is my belief that people want to be in a relationship with happy people. At least I can speak for Julian and I and say that what WE want is to be in a relationship with happy people. It just makes the relationship more fun and loving.

My relationship with Julian is always evolving. In the beginning I based more of my happiness on him and my relationship with him. That was in the Honeymoon period, the first one. As I continued to study and learn about spirit, the Laws of the Universe and Personal Development I learned how my happiness was truly based on me and my way of thinking.

Yesterday I worked with a client from Facebook and it was hard work. It was hard work because although she knew the Abraham teachings inside out and could quote them better than me she was basing her full happiness on having a lover. She was adamant that true happiness would only be hers when a man came into her life to rescue her. That just doesn’t fly in my book. But the funny thing is that I same into the same trap later that evening when speaking to Marketing Guru Russell. I did the whole woe is me and I bow to your knowledge. Fortunately Russell is not only a Marketing Genius but also a great friend and Abraham follower and he called me on my own crap.

Marriage is not about the other person making things right, neither is any other relationship. Marriage is an absolutely delicious experience when both people are whole and living their dreams knowing that they are responsible for their own happiness.

This week I have been amazed at how many people I’ve come into contact with that are gaging their value and worth by the happiness that their partners are experiencing. You are only responsible for your own happiness! You are most definitely responsible for your own happiness and problems arise when you make your spouse even partially responsible for your happiness.

The only way to truly be happy is to take the time and make the effort to connect with Source Energy.
Putting conditions on your marriage and spouse will only cause tension and strain. I felt so much freer once I learned that I am not responsible for how Julian feels. I will occasionally fall into the trap of feeling responsible, but mostly I leave him to sort out his own stuff. At times it may irritate him that I am being bright eyed bushy tailed bunny, but he gets over whatever it is a lot more quickly then he would if I doted on him trying to make things better.

We all have the choice to feel better when we feel bad. No one can take that choice from us and make us feel better. We are responsible!

Your value is based on how good you feel and how much you connect to who you really are. It really has nothing to do with whether your spouse is pleased or not with what you do or don’t do.

Find better feeling thoughts about the things you want to experience in life and know that you can create them yourself. You don’t need a lover, spouse or marketing guru to do it for you. You are able to live the life of your dreams.

You are gorgeous and I love you!

Thank you.

With Love and Appreciation,
Angela Bear
www.angelabear.com